Life has a way of knocking us down when we least expect it. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a failed dream, or a devastating injury, these moments can leave us questioning our strength and our purpose. But it’s in these moments of despair that the seeds of resilience are sown. I’ve learned that true power doesn’t lie in avoiding setbacks—it lies in rising strong after we’ve been brought to our knees.
Resilience Is a Choice
Resilience isn’t something we’re born with; it’s something we cultivate. Every challenge you face is an invitation to build that inner strength. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. I remember the day I first stepped into the ring as a professional boxer. I didn’t know then that boxing would become a metaphor for life—teaching me how to stand back up after every hit, every loss, every setback.
The same principles apply outside the ring. Resilience is the quiet decision to keep going, even when it feels impossible. It’s the belief that the pain you’re experiencing has a purpose, even if you can’t see it yet.
The Power of a “Why”
Resilience isn’t just about grit—it’s also about having a purpose. When you know why you’re fighting, the pain becomes more bearable. For me, my “why” has always been service. Whether it was serving my country as a military officer, advocating for spinal cord injury research, or standing against the opioid epidemic, my purpose gave me the strength to endure.
If you’re struggling to rise, ask yourself: What or who is worth fighting for? Maybe it’s your family. Maybe it’s a dream you haven’t fulfilled yet. Or maybe, like me, it’s about making the world a better place for others. Whatever your reason, hold onto it tightly. Your “why” will become the anchor that steadies you when life’s storms hit.
Transforming Pain Into Growth
Resilience doesn’t mean ignoring your pain—it means embracing it and learning from it. The most resilient people I’ve met are the ones who’ve allowed their struggles to shape them into something stronger, wiser, and more compassionate.
When I think about resilience, I think about the moments I spent watching friends in the boxing world overcome injuries that would have ended most careers. I think about families I’ve met who lost loved ones to addiction yet turned their grief into advocacy for others. Pain has the power to destroy, but it also has the power to transform.
If you’re in a dark season, remind yourself that this moment is temporary. Your pain is molding you, sharpening you, and preparing you for something greater.
The Role of Community
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that resilience doesn’t happen in isolation. Even the strongest among us need help. I’ve been blessed to have people in my corner—family, friends, mentors—who refused to let me give up. Their belief in me became the spark that reignited my own belief in myself.
If you’re trying to rise after a setback, surround yourself with people who will lift you up, not drag you down. Seek out mentors, join support groups, or simply lean on the people who love you. There’s no shame in needing help; in fact, asking for it is a sign of strength.
Actionable Steps to Build Resilience
- Reflect on Past Challenges
Think about a time you overcame adversity. What strengths did you draw on? Use this as a reminder that you’re capable of handling more than you realize. - Set Small Goals
Big challenges can feel overwhelming. Break them into smaller, manageable steps, and celebrate each small victory along the way. - Practice Self-Compassion
Resilience doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. Be kind to yourself during hard times, and remember that failure is a stepping stone to growth. - Stay Active
Physical movement can have a profound impact on your mental health. Whether it’s boxing, running, or yoga, find an activity that clears your mind and strengthens your body. - Find Meaning in the Struggle
Ask yourself, “What is this moment teaching me?” Every setback contains a lesson, even if it’s not immediately clear.
Closing Thoughts
Resilience isn’t about being unbreakable—it’s about finding the courage to rebuild after you’ve been broken. No matter where you are or what you’re facing, I want you to know that you have the power to rise. It won’t be easy, but I promise it will be worth it.
You are stronger than you think. And when you stand back up, you won’t just be the person you were before—you’ll be someone even more extraordinary.
